Rule #3

If you find that you are having problems with your significant other right from the beginning of the relationship, just remember ... IT ONLY GETS WORSE. Almost every women that has been married to a man or had a child with one can tell you that once your man thinks he has you for good now, he stops working hard to keep you. In essence, the real him comes out in the open. It's unfortunate that we have to find out this late how they really act. If your new boyfriend is not doting on you from the beginning then give up, you are not going to be able to change him. Men are completely stubborn and worse then children. Just be the bigger person and realize when the two of you are not going to be compatible. Here are some bad signs to look for....

1. Fighting early on in the relationship

2. Him going days (or even worse weeks) at a time without calling you
3. Rather than letting you know he cannot attend a date, he just does not pick up his phone
4. Having to continuously tell him things about yourself because he constantly forgets

Though all these things seem very obvious, you'd be surprised ow many women think they can train their men not to do these things. In all honesty, they are trying to express their independence and unless you want a completely inconsiderate guy, just let him go and move on.

Don't forget cheaters NEVER learn.
If he cheats, let him go!! No more needs to be said. As much as he swears he will change, HE WON'T. Oh and for all those women who start a relationship with a man who cheated on his significant other with you, YOU ARE AN IDIOT. What can possibly make you so special that he would not do the same to you. If he could look that other woman in the face and say "I love you" without breaking a sweat, what makes you any different. If he was a good man, he would have been honest with her in the first place and broke it off before anything got serious. If a man dumps me because he was cheating, I don't loose a wink. Good Riddance because he was good for nothing anyway.

Rule #2

BE INDEPENDENT! Some women have a hard time with this concept because they were raised to be dependent on someone, starting with their parents. Do not depend on someone else for your survival, especially a man. If you are dependent on a man he has no reason to work to keep you. He will just assume that you won't leave him because you "need" him. That is the wrong way to look at things. You have to be able to keep yourself in a stable position to make sure you can make it on your own. Being dependent is a weakness that can ultimately ruin a relationship. Don't choose a man because he constantly buys you things, it gives him something to hold over your head if you get mad at him. He assumes that it will make up for any bad behavior he may be responsible for.

To show a man your independence, offer to pay for dinner every one and a while or maybe if he buys dinner, you could pay for the movie. Please do not mistake this as letting your man be dependent on you!!!!! I can't tell you how many times I've met girls who spend ridiculous amounts of money on their boyfriends, and their boyfriends complain about doing anything for them. You can't let a man take advantage of you. If he isn't willing to give a little for you, he is not worth your time. If you boyfriend just asks you for money for things, but makes up excuses as to why he cannot buy you lunch, just drop him and keep looking.

Introduction

Welcome all to a blog dedicated to unsure women who need advise from someone other than their disfunctional families and friends who would not know the meaning of a good relationship if it creeped up behind them and stole their purse. This is not going to be helpful for women just trying to pick up men for flings, this is purely for women trying to find good men for long term relationships. This blog will be posted weekly with "The Tip of the Week" and I would be happy to answer any questions that come along with the updates. Without any further ado, let's move right along for the tip of this week.

Rule #1
DO NOT SETTLE!
It does not matter how unattractive you feel or out of shape you think you are, do not settle for a man who does not appreciate you! You are the woman and he should feel lucky to have you not the other way around. Believe it or not it is OK to be a little picky. BUT (and this is of key importance) don't be TOO picky. We've all met nice guys that aren't super attractive, but don't let it get in the way of you giving them a chance. Sometimes you may find the physical attraction coming after you get to know them instead of before. This can go the other way to, you can meet a cute guy that makes you crazy and suddenly he doesn't seem so good looking anymore. That is a lot of women's biggest mistake is solely looking at a man's exterior and then being put off that no one seems attractive to them. Believe it or not (and believe me this seems impossible) but men have feelings too and sometimes it takes them, a lot of courage to go out and try to make a spark with a woman out of thin air.

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