Rule #10

This is going to be one of my stranger rules, however I think it could be one of the most important ones. DON'T blow off the geeky guys. This could work for people of almost any age, but it is most important for women still in school. Here are the reasons I highly recommend the "geeky" guys. First and foremost, they are much more open to expressing their feelings than a manly man. Burly cavemen feel the urge to keep up with their rugged status and can't be bothered with emotions. Geeks are, without a doubt, going to fight to keep you. No matter who you are, they will always feel you are too good for them (which they should) and will work very hard not to mess things up. The other type will typically have the opposite opinion and try to pull that "you can't do any better than me" mess. PLEASE if you listen to nothing else I say, any man who feels that way is good for nothing!

This reason only really works for the younger crowd, but believe it or not, men can really blossom and grow into their good looks after high school. This gives you a little extra incentive to stick it out because you could be in for a big surprise later on in life. And lastly, geeks are more likely to have a good future ahead of them. Typically (but not always) geeks are well known for working extra hard in school, so you'd better believe he has high aspirations in the future job field.

Rule #9

There's one very important way to tell if your man is really interested in you or if he's really not that interested in creating a realationship. You just have to ask yourself, "is he a planner"? What I mean by this is does he go out of his way to arrange the next time he is going to get to see you in advance. It may not seem this way at first, but guys that are spontaneous or don't like to "plan" are not interested in you the way you'd want them to be.

In my experience, the guy would plan for us to meet up, but if I would ask him what time or for anything specific for that manner, he would clam up and say that I was planning his day for him. Needless to say, that's a bad sign. If you are someone like me and do not want to plan your day around someone else's spontaneity, then get out quick! A guy that is really into will plan your next date while he is with you so there is no chance of him not getting a hold of you in the future.

Human Lie Detector Part II

You may find yourself asking "Where were you last night?" and he may quickly jump to a extremely convincing and well detailed story. If this happens, he could be lying. Someone who plans out a lie will tell you any unnecessary details to make him seem more credible.

Anyone who has watched a show like CSI may have heard that the direction a person looks in while recalling a story may help determine whether they are making the story up, or recalling events. Though, there is no black and white way to tell whether or not they are lying, here are some ways to show how eye directions link to memory and knowing these may help you catch someone telling a tall tale.

Up and to the Left:
When a person looks in this direction, they are trying to visually construct an image. For instance, if you ask someone to imagine their life in 15 years, they will construct this visually even though they don't know what it would look like for sure.
Up and to the Right:
When a person is looking in this direction they are recalling images. For example, if you ask someone what their first pet looked like, they should glance up in this direction.
To the Left:
This a the direction people look when they construct audio sounds. For instance,
you may ask a person what someone said yesterday. If they are making up something they said, they will glance to the left.
To the Right:
When the person glances to the right, they are actually remembering something said, or more specifically, a sound.
Down to the Left:
This direction is used to recall a feeling. If you asked someone to try to remember what their grandmother's cookies smelled like, this would be the direction they'd look.
Down to the Right:
This is the direction people will typically look when they are talking to themselves.

Human Lie Detector

This is not exactly one of my rules, but I thought it might be interesting to put in here. There are certain forms of body language that will help you determine if someone (boyfriend) is lying. For one, if a person is lying, their physical expression will be limited and stiff. For example, they will use few hand movements and whenever they move, it is close to the body. A liar tends to take up less space. Also, they will avoid making eye contact and their hands will usually migrate toward their face, throat, mouth, nose, and behind the ear. Liars are unlikely to touch their chest with an open hand.


When it comes down to signs of affection and emotional gestures, when a person is lying, the lie itself will be a different pace than the rest of their statement. Also, if there is a separation between signs of two emotional expressions, a person is most likely lying. For example, if a person receives a gift and says "I love it!", and then they smile, they are most likely faking.

When accused, a guilty person will get defensive every time. Also, a liar is uncomfortable facing his accuser and may turn his body or head away during confrontation. They may attempt to separate themselves from the accuser by unconsciously placing objects between themselves and the questioner. When someone answers a question, a statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful. For example, "I didn't do it" instead of "I did not do it". They may try to avoid lying by not making direct statements and implying answers rather than answering it directly.
To be continued...

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Rule # 8

I like to call Rule # 8 Taking the Plunge. If you truly feel that you have a legitimately healthy relationship and you might be ready to take your relationship further (moving in together, marriage, etc...) then please DO NOT be afraid to ask your man where he stands as far as long term commitment goes. Then again please do not let infatuation blind your eyes and expect wedding bells after a few months. Some women want to be done "hunting" so bad that they do not take a second to fully assess how compatible they are with their mate.

But, if you truly feel you are ready to take the next step, talk to your man. If he seems really weary of the thought of being "stuck with you", then throw that fish back. That is an extremely bad sign, and even if you do convince him to marry you, it definitely will not last. If the two of you have been together for a few years and he keeps saying "I don't want to mess up a good thing by making things too permanent", get out while you still can. That makes it obvious he has some commitment issues which could easily lead him astray.

Rule # 7

Women are prone to making excuses for the men that they are into. One thing that women find themselves scrambling for excuses over is being stood up. Whether he is "really busy at work" or has to "rush off to take care of his sick grandmother", there is NO EXCUSE for standing you up without a phone call! Think of it this way, if he has no problem not following through on your small expectations, such as a date, then he has no problem disappointing you on big things. The number one thing to remember in a relationship is to not be with someone who does not do what he says he is going to. If a man is not calling you it simply means you are not on his mind. He should be scared to stand you up in fear of losing you and your trust.

Rule #6

If any woman has ever had to be away from their significant other for an extended period time has possibly had the problem I like to call "ONE ENDED PHONE CALLS". I find that when we are "catching up" on the phone, I am the only one that is doing the talking. I have become almost an expert on "taking the hint" that a guy is uninterested, so my first thought when I heard the sound of endless breathing from his part is that he is bored with me. It took advice from my own dad (yikes) to tell me that that probably isn't the case. Most males simply are terrible at talking on the phone. We just may not realize it because when we are with them, we rarely have extended conversations over the phone. The other thing that scared me was the unenthusiastic tone in his voice. The truth is maybe he is just missing you! It seems too simple (and maybe too good) to be true. But men have a hard time openly presenting their feelings such as women and they tell us through body language and tone. Basically, men are cowards (for lack of a better phrase) when it comes to opening up. Please DO NOT be discouraged. Chances are that if everything is wonderful when you two are together, there is simply some separation anxiety for your man.

Rule #5

Most women already know that calling too much is a serious deal breaker for new relationships. Unfortunately, some find texting as a way to check up on their significant other guilt-free.

If at all possible, please put down your phone and let it go. Texting too much can really "freak a guy a out" and make you seem way too overeager and a little obsessive. Many women make this mistake because they see a text as ending much quicker than a phone call and can be easily ignored. Even if a guy doesn't text you back, he is not technically ignoring it. Also please try not to text jokes or sarcasm because texting shows NO emotion. A guy can easily misinterpret what you are trying to say and get very irritated very quickly. Also, please please please please do not pick up that phone while you are drunk. You could say something that you didn't want to mention and he would never know you were inebriated.

Rule #4

This rule is solely about that dreaded first call. First calls are notorious for psychologically destroying a woman and making the most calm women "impatient". Honestly, LET HIM CALL FIRST.



Being rejected by not being called is one thing, but being ignored is much worse. Do yourself a huge favor and wait. Most women also have callback syndrome, which is where they call once and don't get an answer. Then they think "Well maybe he is in a bad service area", so they try again. Next thought is usually "Oops, I forgot to leave a message", so they call one more time. This makes you seem extremely desperate. In most cases, the guy is looking for a chase instead of being chased. As the old stand by goes, let him come to you.

Rule #3

If you find that you are having problems with your significant other right from the beginning of the relationship, just remember ... IT ONLY GETS WORSE. Almost every women that has been married to a man or had a child with one can tell you that once your man thinks he has you for good now, he stops working hard to keep you. In essence, the real him comes out in the open. It's unfortunate that we have to find out this late how they really act. If your new boyfriend is not doting on you from the beginning then give up, you are not going to be able to change him. Men are completely stubborn and worse then children. Just be the bigger person and realize when the two of you are not going to be compatible. Here are some bad signs to look for....

1. Fighting early on in the relationship

2. Him going days (or even worse weeks) at a time without calling you
3. Rather than letting you know he cannot attend a date, he just does not pick up his phone
4. Having to continuously tell him things about yourself because he constantly forgets

Though all these things seem very obvious, you'd be surprised ow many women think they can train their men not to do these things. In all honesty, they are trying to express their independence and unless you want a completely inconsiderate guy, just let him go and move on.

Don't forget cheaters NEVER learn.
If he cheats, let him go!! No more needs to be said. As much as he swears he will change, HE WON'T. Oh and for all those women who start a relationship with a man who cheated on his significant other with you, YOU ARE AN IDIOT. What can possibly make you so special that he would not do the same to you. If he could look that other woman in the face and say "I love you" without breaking a sweat, what makes you any different. If he was a good man, he would have been honest with her in the first place and broke it off before anything got serious. If a man dumps me because he was cheating, I don't loose a wink. Good Riddance because he was good for nothing anyway.

Rule #2

BE INDEPENDENT! Some women have a hard time with this concept because they were raised to be dependent on someone, starting with their parents. Do not depend on someone else for your survival, especially a man. If you are dependent on a man he has no reason to work to keep you. He will just assume that you won't leave him because you "need" him. That is the wrong way to look at things. You have to be able to keep yourself in a stable position to make sure you can make it on your own. Being dependent is a weakness that can ultimately ruin a relationship. Don't choose a man because he constantly buys you things, it gives him something to hold over your head if you get mad at him. He assumes that it will make up for any bad behavior he may be responsible for.

To show a man your independence, offer to pay for dinner every one and a while or maybe if he buys dinner, you could pay for the movie. Please do not mistake this as letting your man be dependent on you!!!!! I can't tell you how many times I've met girls who spend ridiculous amounts of money on their boyfriends, and their boyfriends complain about doing anything for them. You can't let a man take advantage of you. If he isn't willing to give a little for you, he is not worth your time. If you boyfriend just asks you for money for things, but makes up excuses as to why he cannot buy you lunch, just drop him and keep looking.

Introduction

Welcome all to a blog dedicated to unsure women who need advise from someone other than their disfunctional families and friends who would not know the meaning of a good relationship if it creeped up behind them and stole their purse. This is not going to be helpful for women just trying to pick up men for flings, this is purely for women trying to find good men for long term relationships. This blog will be posted weekly with "The Tip of the Week" and I would be happy to answer any questions that come along with the updates. Without any further ado, let's move right along for the tip of this week.

Rule #1
DO NOT SETTLE!
It does not matter how unattractive you feel or out of shape you think you are, do not settle for a man who does not appreciate you! You are the woman and he should feel lucky to have you not the other way around. Believe it or not it is OK to be a little picky. BUT (and this is of key importance) don't be TOO picky. We've all met nice guys that aren't super attractive, but don't let it get in the way of you giving them a chance. Sometimes you may find the physical attraction coming after you get to know them instead of before. This can go the other way to, you can meet a cute guy that makes you crazy and suddenly he doesn't seem so good looking anymore. That is a lot of women's biggest mistake is solely looking at a man's exterior and then being put off that no one seems attractive to them. Believe it or not (and believe me this seems impossible) but men have feelings too and sometimes it takes them, a lot of courage to go out and try to make a spark with a woman out of thin air.

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