BE INDEPENDENT! Some women have a hard time with this concept because they were raised to be dependent on someone, starting with their parents. Do not depend on someone else for your survival, especially a man. If you are dependent on a man he has no reason to work to keep you. He will just assume that you won't leave him because you "need" him. That is the wrong way to look at things. You have to be able to keep yourself in a stable position to make sure you can make it on your own. Being dependent is a weakness that can ultimately ruin a relationship. Don't choose a man because he constantly buys you things, it gives him something to hold over your head if you get mad at him. He assumes that it will make up for any bad behavior he may be responsible for.
To show a man your independence, offer to pay for dinner every one and a while or maybe if he buys dinner, you could pay for the movie. Please do not mistake this as letting your man be dependent on you!!!!! I can't tell you how many times I've met girls who spend ridiculous amounts of money on their boyfriends, and their boyfriends complain about doing anything for them. You can't let a man take advantage of you. If he isn't willing to give a little for you, he is not worth your time. If you boyfriend just asks you for money for things, but makes up excuses as to why he cannot buy you lunch, just drop him and keep looking.
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